Parents, do you feel like you are constantly saying “No/Stop/Don’t” to your child? Learning about how to use the power of positive phrasing can be an asset for parents everywhere.
Children are on the receiving end of hundreds of instructions every day. Yet, many times these commands are both abrupt and negative in their delivery. Why? In the real world, we would never speak to another adult in that way.
Children naturally consider adults to be leaders. Barking orders will not prove who is in charge. In fact, it may cause your child to feel discouraged and resentful when they are given a set of directions to follow.
So, how do we put a positive spin on the way we are delivering instructions, and also ensure that the child will comply? Try phrasing your request as a positive statement. By doing so, you are teaching your child what you want to see them doing more of. Add in a little positive reinforcement after they complete the task and you will see the power of positive phrasing come to life!
Unstructured time can be hard for some kids, especially those with weak self-management skills. Parents, has this ever happened to you?......You send your child to another room to start their homework, and when you check in ten minutes later, you find them playing a game on their tablet. Or maybe you are a classroom teacher trying to manage the needs of 25 kindergarten students while simultaneously teaching a differentiated lesson for a small group. Without an organized plan, structured routines, and independent skills, chaos is bound to occur. Instead, set yourself up for success with these three easy tips! ... See MoreSee Less
“But I'm so bored!” As summer starts to get underway, so do the cries of boredom. Summertime activities don’t have to be complicated or expensive. Sometimes it just takes a little bit of creative thinking, and you can turn your backyard into a beach, drive-in movie theater, or ice cream shop. Summer can be hard because there is a lot of time to structure. Chunk out your day into two or three sections (surrounding meals) and plan an activity or two for each part of the day.The best part is checklists (or a bucket list) are a great way to provide structure, offer choice making opportunities and teach independence. Having trouble coming up with ideas? Ask your kids what things they’ve been looking forward to doing, then make a list or print this freebie (link in the comments ⬇️) to jumpstart the summer fun! ... See MoreSee Less
Have you ever printed on sticky notes before? Let me tell you; it is LIFE CHANGING. Just pop the sticky notes onto a template to ensure they are aligned, and then send it back through the printer allowing the image to transfer directly to the post-it instead of the printed page. Why am I telling you this? Well, I decided to wrap up teacher appreciation week with a FREE printable to help you give your students (or children) behavior-specific praise. Did you know that behavior-specific praise happens to be one of the CHEAPEST and MOST EFFECTIVE strategies in your positive reinforcement toolbox? Do you find that saying "good job" all the time feels dull and insincere? All you need are three key components (child's name + positive statement + observed behavior = behavior-specific praise). These easy-to-use sticky notes can help you step up your praise game!I have a few more sticky note printables in the works (think easy data collection and checklists). What other types of templates would you want to see on a post-it note?Visit my blog for more information and to grab the link to the FREE Behavior-Specific Praise Sticky Note Printable. ... See MoreSee Less
Yesterday, I shared a graphic about the importance of increasing the delivery of positive praise using the 4:1 ratio. You may be thinking, "Yeah, that sounds great (in theory), but HOW do I actually implement this strategy?"As it turns out, plans, visuals, and data collection work for adults too. One of the best ways to know if you are doing too much or too little of something is through a self-monitoring system. Begin by making a plan. Think of positive alternative behaviors that you want to listen or look for, such as using an inside voice in place of yelling. Then, decide on a time frame. It is difficult to remember to be looking for those positive alternative behaviors throughout the course of an entire day. Instead, start small. Pick a window of time where you can give your undivided attention to providing positive praise. Self-monitor your own behavior by tracking the number of praise vs. corrective statements you make during the given time frame. I like using color-coded rubber bands as a visual prompt.Finally, pair the praise with a tangible item (if applicable.) Challenge yourself to use the 4:1 ratio for an hour tomorrow and see how positively reinforcing it is for YOU and YOUR CHILD. ... See MoreSee Less